Divorce is one of the most painful experiences. It is not only personal pain due to the loss of a loved one, but also loneliness, isolation, and fear of not meeting society's standards that make it so. And although everyone's pain seems to be the greatest, unique and incomparable, the truth is that all divorcees reach more or less the same dead ends. "In order not to stay in them and to heal faster, you need to seek help," this is the advice shared by divorce survivors.
"I thought I was doing quite well..."
Rasa learned about group therapy for people going through a divorce from her lawyer, but immediately rejected the opportunity to go there. "I thought it was too much of a luxury to spend time on it. The kids seemed to have the hardest time, so I have to spend all my time with them when I get home from work instead of looking for help for myself. Especially since I thought that I was managing quite well, that there are much more complicated divorces than mine. However, once while driving, I heard on the radio an interview of specialists who conduct group therapies. I cried aloud for an hour during the conversation, although nothing special seemed to have been said. That's when I realized that I still need help," Rasa remembers.
The son also received help
“After the fact of the divorce, I stopped talking to my children about it and just tried to be a good mother as I understood it. But when I started going to group therapy, I realized that we needed to talk. I even enrolled my son in a children's group. And although he was very reluctant to go there at first, he left each meeting in a better mood and calmer. Finally, the child's behavior changed a lot for the better, cheerfulness and childishness returned. Even the teachers noticed it," - says Rasa.
Rasa is happy that therapy has helped her regain peace, trust and forgiveness. Today, she can communicate with her ex-husband respectfully and without resentment. Although many years have passed, the beautiful communication with the people I met in the group continues to this day.
Let's help overcome the divorce crisis together!